Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, For anger rests in the bosom of fools.Ecclesiastes 7:9
Anger by definition is a negative emotion. If we allow it to thrive in our spirit, it will bring much damage to us and our circle of influence. The level and timing of anger can turn a possible justified emotion into a sinful behavior. An episode of uncontrollable anger has caused many people ruin and even their personal freedom. Many who allow their anger to get out of control end up regretting it. The horrible consequences of uncontrolled anger are not worth it.
The Bible speaks of God’s holy anger. Thus, how do we manage our own anger, even when we feel it is justifiable? It is important to recognize that God’s anger is filled with righteousness and omniscience. He knows it all, nothing can take Him by surprise. On the other hand, we sometimes allow anger to fester within us without totally knowing the whole truth or having all the information. The result is that we end up looking like a fool.
The tenants of anger are not the nicest emotions. But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth, (Colossians 3:8). We must also recognize that the Bible does not prohibit us from anger, but exhorts us to manage it. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “Be angry, and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” So, anger has a place and a time. We should get angry at unjust events or ugly behavior from others. But we keep things in perspective and not let the emotion take control of us.
As followers of Christ, it is important that we have our anger issues in-check. Sometimes anger disguises itself as passive aggression. For example, let’s say you are angry at your parents, spouse, or child for not meeting your expectations. Over the course of time, the issue remains unchecked in your heart. You let the carbon bubbles of passive anger built up in your system like a volcano just waiting to explode. Until one day you lose your cool and let out rage on the people around you. To avoid such an episode, learn to release your anger in prayer. Justified or not, let the Holy Spirit take control of your anger and your mouth. Try walking away from a heated situation until you are cooled and settled. Anger should not own you. Learn to manage and release it to the Lord. It takes long time to build lasting relationships, but one burst of uncontrollable anger can destroy everything in an instant.
By Pastor Jorge Cardenas